The fact of the matter is that life isn’t perfect and we really can’t please everyone. That being said, all of us are bound to have one or more people that could be frankly described as enemies. Although the term itself is quite unfortunate, a person who happens to act so antagonistic and highly toxic towards you for no apparent reason could be labeled as an enemy. Perhaps a fresh perspective is necessary for you in order to handle such people in your life. If you really think about it, you cannot hope to transform your life unless you become the bigger person and handle unsavory individuals in a prudent manner. Here are some effective tips and advice on how you can deal with enemies in a very classy way.
It’s not you, it’s them. Instead of thinking that you’re the problem, you need to think that maybe they are the ones having a problem which is the main reason why they act as the antagonists of your life. Oftentimes, people attack others because they are envious of what they have or they do it simply to assuage their own insecurities. So, whenever you feel like you’re beating yourself up for having miserable people around, tell yourself that you’re above their pettiness.
Remain poised. The first instinct that we often do when enemies attack us is to fight back. However, this only means that you’re stooping down to their level, and you don’t want that to happen. Be the bigger person by showing them that you could care less about the hurtful words they’re saying about you. You must always remain calm and composed when you cross paths with your enemies. Above all, holding your tongue and showing restraint sends a more powerful message than resorting to retaliation.
Kill them with kindness. While we’re on the subject on being the bigger person in a situation involving enemies, you must always go for the classy route when you are forced to deal with them in person. There’s no classy way to deal with toxic people than showing them genuine kindness even if they feel such vitriol and hatred against you. Make a sincere effort to act civil and polite when speaking to them, even if they make disparaging remarks about you acting fake in their presence. It doesn’t matter what they think of you in that moment; what matters is that you stayed true to being nice and kind, so don’t take it too personally if they still don’t warm up to you after being bombarded with so much kindness.
Forgive and forget. If you feel that you have truly exhausted all options, then the last classy resort you can do is to simply forgive and forget. You can’t move on with your life with this kind of negativity haunting you, so it’s best to forgive everyone that has done you wrong and forget about them. You’ll soon realize that this will be like lifting a heavy weight off your shoulders.